*pix Marilyn Monroe

Sex, Understanding, Confusion, False Messages and Eating Disorders

If you have an eating disorder, you most likely know that human sexuality is flagrantly advertised and photographed, exploited and both demonized and idealized in our culture.  Yet  your actual experience is rarely reflected back to you in ways that help you feel understood or understand yourself. Worse, the bomardment of sexual behavior and sexual etiquette definitions may overwhelm you before you can develop your own appreciation for what's important to you.

Here's an example of the pressure on you to fit into a predetermined and callous sexually desireable straightjacket.

The Days after Thanksgiving – Time for Your Real Thankfulness

In my years as a psychotherapist, I’ve been honored to work with many people who reveal and discover their true feelings during holidays. As we share and explore together, we find the core gratitude within that enhances daily life and enriches their holiday experience. Perhaps some of what we’ve found will deepen and enrich your experience too.

The Thanksgiving holiday is over. You may reflect on:

Every holiday seems to have a large food component in our culture. Fourth of July is no exception. If you have an eating disorder, the holiday may pose some challenges for you that other people don't consider.

If you recognize these challenges and confront them directly in terms of your needs and vulnerabilities, you can participate in a fun celebration while maintaining your eating disorder recovery. Fourth of July food challenges take many forms.

“Trust that which gives you meaning and accept it as your guide.” Carl Jung

Trusting Dreams as Personal Living Truth Tellers

If you are anxious, depressed, stressed, or trapped in a bad relationship, you may not know who to listen to, who to trust, what to believe, or what even to hope for. Yet you carry within you the source of your most effective guidance that comes from your authentic truth – your dreams.

You can pay attention to your dreams despite the disguises dreams use through the symbols your unconscious presents. The disguise is there to help you get closer to what is meaningful to you without your needing to push that meaning away too fast. Following what is truly meaningful to you is the path to your recovery and to a much more fulfilled and satisfying life.

Dreams play a crucial role in eating disorder recovery, offering valuable insights and opportunities for healing. Understanding the connection between them and eating disorders can aid individuals on their journey to wellness.

Five Ways Dreams Relate to Eating Disorder Recovery

1. Emotional Processing:

Dreams serve as a platform for processing complex emotions associated with eating disorders, such as anxiety, guilt, and shame. Exploring this content helps individuals work through these emotions in a safe and symbolic way, facilitating emotional healing.

Eating disorder recovery requires deep work. Suppose this treasure was your dream image. How would you understand it? Would you go surface or deep?

Dreams go deep. With understanding, you can benefit from your dream images. If you attend to your dream images and wonder about them, you have an opportunity to go more deeply into the meaning this image holds for you. This is more than an intellectual exercise.

Feelings are lost or unknown, forgotten memories and physical sensations echoing your past come into consciousness. What your eating disorder represses has an opportunity to ascend to awareness. That's when you have a genuine healing opportunity.

Your dream images can help your awareness explode like a blooming fire and lead you into recovery with newly released energy.

Dream Journal Value

Keeping a written record of your dreams is often part of eating disorder recovery work. Clients do it dutifully, resentfully, awkwardly, and enthusiastically. They forget to do it.

They can't do it because they can't remember their dreams. They are embarrassed to do it because the dreams are embarrassing. Or they refuse to do it because the dreams are frightening. Yet, any of these experiences add value to the recovery process.

This is the story of how one mother, with Jesus imagery in her dream, reconnected to her authentic self during a time of conflict with her adult daughter.

Q: Why are inner explorations and investigations of dream images called work?

A: Because we are construction workers. We build bridges. We gather raw materials from our psyches, discover their relevance and shape them to form bridges between our unconscious and conscious.

We create a means of transporting what is deep within us to our day-to-day perceptions. We learn to tolerate emotional disruption as we adjust to greater meaning and understanding in our lives and the world.