thanks Joanna, the more I attempt to progress in my healing, the more I realize the impact I may be having on my kids. I haven't really gotten into this topic with my therapist as I always seem to have so much on my plate when I get to my session. I know my daughter has an unhealthy relationship with food. I don't think she knew that until I pointed it out...so am I making things worse? I don't know. I do try to choose my words carefully. But I wonder if I should just let her be who she is and not worry about her size...I know a lot of this is my issue and projections. I do have a coworker who is a nutritionist. I think she would be really honest with me about what direction to take. thank you for helping me think of this. tracy