Dear Tracy, Parenting advice is a stretch here. All I can say is your eating disorder colors your vision and your emotions. It does for anyone who has an eating disorder. When you know that you can take that knowledge in to consideration before you make judgements or take actions. Probably what's best is to talk to a child psychologist or family therapist to help you sort out the reality of your daughter's situation and your influence on her. I'd look for a fresh point of view, a mental health professional removed from your family system and network of friends.