Shh, Misunderstandings can be wonderful gifts if the people involved will remain present for what they feel and communicate with each other. When we give ourselves and each other room to fully feel and say our truth in "I statements" we can learn more about each other and ourselves. And we can learn that we can learn - which is pretty terrific. Mel, your "allowable response" is gives you practice in staying with the experiences and hearing something that might be new. I love it. Processing will come. Still smiling at both of you. :) :) :)