Oh Tracy, I wish I could transfer my feelings and reaction to your comments, over to you! I wish I could give you the confidence - not even the confidence to tackle things in tharapy (although, of course I wish I could give you that too)...but the confidence to say "I want to take things slowly, friends first, anything else will be much further down the line" and to believe that setting that boundary and upholding it, is indeed perfectly acceptable, and that any man who has issues with that is not worthy of a second thought as he would never be the right man for you. There are men out there who would respect that, even prefer things that way!