Question: Oh, no!  What should I do? My natal cleft (butt crack) shows when I bend down in my jeans or when my friend picks me up. I must have such a huge fat butt! I'm so embarrassed.

Why would you jump to the conclusion that a piece of fabric determines your size and beauty?

Your butt is just fine. Please remember, your jeans are the end result of an entire industry pushing a product to make money. If you let the designing and marketing machinery have power to set you off in criticizing your body parts

Weight Loss Seminars Sell Dreams

Pretty promises packaged in fast, easy-to-use vials, bottles, and boxes, wrapped in colorful cellophane and offering quick weight loss and a life of friendship, career advancement, love, and romance. Eat, drink, massage and vibrate your way to slim beauty. Please be aware and recognize the shiny magic lantern that promises to grant your wishes but delivers dissipating smoke.

People with a history of eating disorders have a history of not recognizing or being able to create necessary boundaries. Have you learned to appreciate boundaries? 

For the past two nights I've been watching Michael Jackson videos on youtube. Here are a few.

• Beat It
• Billy Jean
• Thriller
• Michael Jackson & Brittany Spears live
• From New York Times: great interactive timeline of Michael Jackson's life.

I've always loved his music and his distinctive and electrifying dance moves. But I had never watched his career unfold chronologically before my eyes from first appearance as a dynamic little boy in the Jackson Five to the creative genius behind Thriller and beyond. His "We are the world" raised millions for starving children in Africa.

Yet at a low Michael was 91 pounds on a five 5'11" frame.