Tracy, have you tried journalling fron the perspective of the little girl - it would probably be very emotional, but asking her how she feels and why she feels that way etc, might be helpful? And maybe even journal a letter in response, from your adult self, telling her what you would like to do for her - scoop her up and give her a bit cuddle, take her out of that place etc??? I dunno...just thoughts that came into my mind, when I read your comments.