Shame..

Kym

I felt like shame was a very ingrained core belief too, and read in several places that it is very difficult to tackle, but I can honestly say that it has lifted significantly for me...

...I can't explain how or why, it just happened out of the blue, I just realised one day that I was acting and feeling differently... and really I feel lik,e it is more to do with actions than words...you know when you change the way you do certain things, take up new activities etc, it helps you to reframe who you are, like a sort of more holistic reinforcement than just the work in therapy.

I think it is important to understand how our shame feels and how it affects us, and to look at the things that have contributed to that, so that we can see the faulty logic that we have developed from past experiences that helps us to perpetuate that shame and hold us in that place...

...but I suppose I see it a bit like love - no one single thing makes you feel loving towards someone, it's very complex and multifaceted, it's underpinned by many factors, that create this one thing we identify as love...and I think shame is similar, and as no one or two things create it, then it's not sufficient to address one or two areas to deal with it, we need to look at all the things that feed in and contribute to it, which can be physical and spiritual experiences as well as discourse and words.

I feel like I'm waffling on now... but you work so hard, I really hope you can resolve this Kym!