Sand trays are powerful tools and maybe helpful once a person is further along in looking at sexuality issues in therapy. I'll keep that in mind. Together, right now, we are looking at how to even open the possibility of looking. I'm especially moved and challenged by Shh saying that sexual material came into her mind while she was in session with her therapist but still couldn't bring herself to speak of it. Periodically, when I'm working with someone I'll tell them a brief story about me or a former patient or a person in the news or a character in fiction or nonfiction that lived out a situation not unlike what my patient is experiencing. Maybe I should do that more with sexual issues. What do you think? I will bring up something general, like an affair or infidelity in marriage. And I do bring up stalker stories more within the past eight or so years as I see how often people with eating disorders can attract stalkers - and at times - be a stalker, mistaking obsession for love. Would hearing tiny stories about sexual issues show you that your therapist was at ease and understanding with this material and, therefore, might be at ease and understanding with you? Or would those stories scare you and make you pull back even more? Maybe there's a threshold of tolerance you could help me understand. I'm looking for the kind of stories that would alert you, open you, probably startle you a little - just a little - but also give you a sense of relief and greater safety and free you to speak. Is there a way to get to such a place?