Of course, it's hard to hold those bits, Laura. What so many people don't understand and perhaps cannot before recovery is that something developmental is missing. That something actually develops during recovery and as it develops you have a greater ability to hold on to those bits and more. The frustrating aspect of eating disorders is that you push to go for what you want and feel badly about yourself when you can't. The issues become one of power, control, success or failure. But that kind of thinking leads you away from recovery. The real issues are about growing and developing so you can see, feel, be present, hold your experience and perceptions and make wise moves. Healing Your Hungry Heart is about helping you to grow and develop so you can. Increased strength is important but only part of this process. Thank you for commenting. Please let us know how you are doing.