My understanding of the qualities that allow me to love...

When you give love to someone whom you believe needs that love in order to heal, you are doing God's work. I believe this. It is part of my soul's work. I also think my own sense of vulnerability allows me to see vulnerability in others, it also allows me to see what is worthy and special about the people I am loving. In my finest moments I am present, open and giving. When I am working with my students I feel love towards them. I feel it coming off of me and going to them. I recall during my interview (eighteen years ago) my first boss asked me how I provide therapy and I said "I love them through it." That's what I do. Anything else I teach them comes after that sincere connection. If I don't love them at first, I know that I will eventually, I will pay attention until I find something to make that connection.

It's funny though, I choose to give it to my students and at times I choose not to give it at home. I choose not to give it to myself. Yet, it is so easy to give. I'm one of those people who would tell people that I love them on a regular basis or even out of the blue. I'm so appreciative of the gifts that people offer through their talents. I'm easy. If you let me love you, I will. Most people don't know what to do with this type of openness.