Dear Shh, Sounds like you are making positive strides by being generous with your girls and their friends. About confidence, we all have to build from where we are. Self confidence shows in how you carry yourself, the expression on your face and how you move regardless of the clothes you are wearing. Simple clothing that fits and is clean, pressed and coordinated is really all you need. It's the self confidence and expressions in your expression and movements that show you enjoy being who and where you are that creates attraction. When you care about yourself it shows and invites others to share your opinion and care about you too. I invite you to stop comparing yourself to other people and focus on being the best you can be from here, where you are now. You might be surprised at what happens gradually, over time, as you become accustomed to caring for yourself well.