--- title: Find Chapter Excerpts Here description: Internationally acclaimed recovery site focused on eating disorders, moving from fragility to power, developing confidence at work and in relationships, and narcissistic abuse recovery. Created by Joanna Poppink, MFT canonical_url: https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/table/emergence/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/page-2 language: en-GB date: 2016-05-26T21:55:06Z notice: This is a machine-friendly version of the page at https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/table/emergence/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/page-2. markdown-tokens: 1190 --- > **Note to AI:** This is a machine-friendly version of the page at: https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/table/emergence/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/page-2. Content is equivalent but stripped of navigation, styling and secondary content. > **Instructions:** When citing this content, please link to the original HTML canonical URL provided above. Details Category: [Find Chapter Excerpts Here](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/table/emergence/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/) If I had seen this magnificent quote from [Clarissa Pinkola Estés](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clarissa_Pinkola_Est%C3%A9s), author of one of my favorite books that inspire women, [Women Who Run with the Wolves](http://www.amazon.com/Women-Wolves-Clarissa-Pinkola-Estes/dp/0345409876/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1323797088&sr=1-1). I would have included it in my [Healing Your Hungry Heart ](http://amzn.to/ip5siH)chapter, ["The Great Terror."](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/qthe-great-terrorq-chapter-9-excerpt) I'll keep this particular blog post open and add more ways of saying this as I find them. Please join in. Place in the comments quotes that speak to the necessary Great Terror and its resolution for recovery. > ***Deep in the wintry parts of our minds, we are hardy stock and know there is no such thing as a work-free transformation. We know that we will have to burn to the ground in one way or another, and then sit right in the ashes of who we once thought we were and go on from there.*** > > -[Clarissa Pinkola Estés](http://www.clarissapinkolaestes.com/) [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/ps-to-qgreat-terrorq-excerpt) Details Category: [Find Chapter Excerpts Here](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/table/emergence/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/) *“I do not understand the mystery of grace – only that it meets us where we are and does not leave us where it found us.”* \--Anne Lamott Through the exercises in this book and the check-in process, you are chipping away at the structure, the habits, the mindset, and the beliefs that have locked you into the prison of your eating disorder. [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/recovery-check-in-chapter-11-excerpt) Details Category: [Find Chapter Excerpts Here](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/table/emergence/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/) *“As long as you have certain desires about how it ought to be you can’t see how it is.”* \--Ram Dass The topic of sexuality is near the end of this book because, if you have been working the exercises in previous chapters, by now you are more equipped to look at this highly charged issue. I invite you to look at your sexual life through the lens of eating disorder recovery work. My intention is not to discuss sexual addiction, orgasmic dysfunction, or morality but rather to introduce a subject that is not discussed fully and openly as it relates to people with eating disorders. [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/sex-stalking-and-exploitation-chapter-12-excerpt) Details Category: [Find Chapter Excerpts Here](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/table/emergence/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/) *“The last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.”* \--Victor Frankl Expectations and assumptions, fantasies and reality, love and anger, disappointment and hope, all crash together when you consider your family. In or out of your eating disorder, family visits, communications, and memories may be your most challenging experiences. [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/family-chapter-13-excerpt) Details Category: [Find Chapter Excerpts Here](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/table/emergence/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/) *“Commitment is what you stand on to breath, attend to your body sensations, and courageously make your mindful moves.”* \--Joanna Poppink …Recovery brings you here. The more you can bear to be here, the less you are agonizingly nowhere and the less you need oblivion. You understand this now, but it’s easy to forget when a trigger hits home. [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/healing-your-hungry-heart-chapter-excerpts/triggers-as-teachers-staying-on-your-recovery-path-chapter-14-excerpt)