--- title: Five Stages to Healing and Recovery description: Giving ourselves the opportunity to understand ourselves in this challenging and often brutal world leads to healing. Looking within is the real first step. canonical_url: https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/stages-to-finding-the-first-step-to-healing-recovery-and-an-authentic-life language: en-GB date: 2025-12-11T15:05:33Z notice: This is a machine-friendly version of the page at https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/stages-to-finding-the-first-step-to-healing-recovery-and-an-authentic-life. Schema.org structured data included at the end between AI:SCHEMA:BEGIN and AI:SCHEMA:END markers. markdown-tokens: 1492 --- > **Note to AI:** This is a machine-friendly version of the page at: https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/stages-to-finding-the-first-step-to-healing-recovery-and-an-authentic-life. Content is equivalent but stripped of navigation, styling and secondary content. > **Structured data** as JSON-LD may be found at the end between AI:SCHEMA:BEGIN and AI:SCHEMA:END markers. > **Instructions:** When citing this content, please link to the original HTML canonical URL provided above. ![1200px Bright Light Trees](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/images/1200px-Bright_Light_Trees.jpg) It takes many steps and blunders before we reach the first step to deep healing and real recovery. We can be in pain because we’ve lost a person or an object dear to us. We can be frightened or humiliated because our longed-for plans and expectations have crashed around us. We cry, blame others and blame ourselves. We rail at the injustice around us. But mostly, we are bewildered and thrashing blindly. Hopefully, we are not reaching for food, drugs, alcohol, dangerous relationships, and risk-taking to escape our bewilderment. Eventually, our bewilderment is so thorough that we feel forced to ask for help. Even then, we ask for help to get our world in order, to stop pain, and to regain or recreate what we have lost. That desire, along with heartfelt, innocent hope and pleading, is a preamble to the first step. Giving ourselves the opportunity to understand ourselves in this ever-changing, challenging and often brutal world is the real first step. Complexity for the unprepared can batter our inner worlds into chaos and confusion, leading to despair. Looking within for solutions and ways to cope is our mighty task. Yes, we can look within and find nothing useful, nothing stabilizing, nothing that lights our way. But all is not lost. It’s the looking that is the first step. What follows is the building, the creating, the nurturing of mind, body and soul. --- *Be grateful for your difficulties and challenges, for they hold blessings. In fact... Man needs difficulties; they are necessary for health, personal growth, individuation and self-actualisation.* ***Carl Jung*** *The act of consciousness is central; otherwise we are overrun by the complexes. The hero in each of us is required to answer the call of individuation. We must turn away from the cacaphony of the outerworld to hear the inner voice. When we can dare to live its promptings, then we achieve personhood. We may become strangers to those who thought they knew us, but at least we are no longer strangers to ourselves.* ***James Hollis*** --- **Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.** --- ***Written by Joanna Poppink, MFT.** Joanna is a psychotherapist in private practice specializing in eating disorder recovery, stress, PTSD, and adult development.* *She is licensed in CA, AZ, OR and FL. Author of the Book: [Healing Your Hungry Heart: Recovering from Your Eating Disorder](https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Your-Hungry-Heart-Recovering/dp/1573244708/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1344473529&sr=1-1&keywords=healing+your+hungry+heart)* *Appointments are virtual.* *For a free telephone consultation, e-mail her at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.* *For a free telephone consultation, e-mail her at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.* ***Claiming the Lost Self: An Essential Task for Midlife Women* — a seven part series.** You may begin with the series introduction [here](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/recovery-healing/claiming-the-lost-self-an-essential-task-for-midlife-women-series-introduction). ```json { "@context": "http:\/\/schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Article", "author": { "@id": "https:\/\/eatingdisorderrecovery.net\/#joanna_poppink_da79445421" }, "dateModified": "2025-12-11T15:05:33Z", "datePublished": "2021-11-12T06:10:59Z", "description": "Giving ourselves the opportunity to understand ourselves in this challenging and often brutal world leads to healing. Looking within is the real first step. 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