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Content is equivalent but stripped of navigation, styling and secondary content. > **Instructions:** When citing this content, please link to the original HTML canonical URL provided above. ## [ Self-Talk for More Personal Space and Freedom ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/clutter-and-you-a-dialogue-for-space-and-freedom) Details Created: 30 September 2020 ![snake plant in red pot](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/images/snake_plant_in_red_pot.jpg)*A shelf in my office in front of a window.* Using dream analysis and guided imagery methodology, you can dialogue with your obstacles and discover opportunities. Here’s an example that gives both sides of your dilemma a voice. [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/clutter-and-you-a-dialogue-for-space-and-freedom) ## [ Virtual Psychotherapy: What's It Like? A Video ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/what-s-virtual-psychotherapy-like) Details Created: 21 September 2020 Virtual psychotherapy is now the standard way of delivering services. If you've been in therapy and switched from seeing your therapist in person to seeing her online or on Facetime, you may miss the personal presence and setting. But you are grateful that your work continues with the person you trust and with whom you have developed a history. If you are new to psychotherapy or new to the psychotherapist you are considering, what's it like to start work online? Your questions may include: 1. What's it like to be with this person? 2. How will I feel with her? 3. I get a sense of a person when I am with them. How will I get that sense over a monitor? 4. I need support and warmth. Isn't virtual psychotherapy cold? 5. How can I share intimate personal information to a stranger on a screen? 6. How can she know me if she just sees my face on a screen? 7. What happens in online psychotherapy? 8. I need help. Can this kind of therapy work? [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/what-s-virtual-psychotherapy-like) ## [ How Are You Holding Up? Depression, Anxiety, Eating Disorders Emerging Show Us What We Need Now ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/how-holding-up-depression-anxiety-eating-disorders-show-need) Details Created: 10 May 2020 ![golden gate famous 731398 640](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/images/golden_gate_famous-731398_640.jpg)*We need our internal structure to hold, especially when we can't see ahead.* ### Values We define ourselves by our personal values. We know who we are and live by our personal code. At least, that is what we convince ourselves. But some of our values are what we wish we supported. Some of them are based on what we are told to support by respected others. And some of our values may be based on our fear of disapproval. [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/how-holding-up-depression-anxiety-eating-disorders-show-need) ## [ Why Start Psychotherapy? ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/why-start-psychotherapy-3) Details Created: 04 May 2020 ![face soul 3785539 340](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/images/face_soul_-3785539__340.webp)*Shadows of the mind. Light and darkness. Active and passive. More in our depths that we can develop and use than we know.* People usually come to psychotherapy for the first time because they are in pain, bewildered and because everything they know about problem-solving no longer works for them. Going inside their psyches seems like the last option. Even then, they do not know what to expect. At first, they want to know how long it will take to fix their lives. This is a normal response when a person is plunged into an unrecognizable world where their well-honed talents and skills do not bring desired results. They feel angry, lost, frustrated and afraid. [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/why-start-psychotherapy-3) ## [ Stability in an Unstable World: Eating Disorders During Corona Crisis ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/stability-unstable-world-eating-disorders-corona-crisis) Details Created: 25 April 2020 [![slacklining](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/images/slacklining.jpg)](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/images/slacklining.jpg)*This slackliner achieves stability from a developed inner sense of fluid, subtle movement to maintain sustainable balance. We need that ability now.* The eating disorder system that gave you a sense of control and protection is drastically altered during this coronavirus era. When you have an eating disorder, you have developed ways to rely on it when your feelings are too uncomfortable to bear and when disruptions in your life feel overwhelming. That’s what an eating disorder is for. It may cause havoc in your life and prevent you from developing and moving on to a more mature and satisfying existence, but it’s there for you when you want comfort and escape from what feels like too much to experience. [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/stability-unstable-world-eating-disorders-corona-crisis) ## [ Letter to Psychotherapy Clients Regarding Coronavirus Adjustments ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/letter-to-psychotherapy-clients-re-caroravirus-adjustments) Details Created: 08 March 2020 ![view from garden couch red umbrellaIMG 3875](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/images/view_from_garden_couch_red_umbrellaIMG_3875.jpg)*View from garden couch* As of early March my private psychotherapy practice, case consultations, dream analysis and now also corona adjustment issues are all virtual appointments. I use Doxy.me for my virtual appointments. Note: Since I offer my services online now, anyone in the state of California can schedule a psychotherapy appointment. For limited dream analysis sessions or corona adjustment support - not psychotherapy, there is no geographic limitation. I still offer a free telephone consultation for someone considering entering my practice or working with me in another capacity. The best way to contact me is by e-mail: [This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..](mailto:joanna@poppink.com.) [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/letter-to-psychotherapy-clients-re-caroravirus-adjustments) ## [ Global fear of coronavirus and economic instability can cause eating disorder relapse. Get yourself the help you need. ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/global-fear-of-coronavirus-and-economic-instability-can-cause-eating-disorder-relapse-get-yourself-the-help-you-need) Details Created: 29 February 2020 ![clouds 3526558 640](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/images/clouds-3526558_640.jpg) *High drama in the world requires us to respond in the most stable and healthy way possible. Not easy, but possible.*Caronavirus news and the falling global financial markets can reignite old eating disorder feelings and behaviors. If you have been living without your eating disorder and now are shocked that it has kicked in during this time of fear and crisis you are not alone. Please remember, when crisis is upon us we need to center and think clearly. We need to take positive action to care for ourselves, externally and internally. You will be limited if your eating disorder takes charge of your decision making. Yes, it can tap down your anxiety. But it also taps down your clarity of thought and your creativity. It stifles your perceptions of opportunity and your realistic approach to real problems both in the world and your immediate living situation. (See end of article for help resources.) ### Why is your eating disorder back? [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/global-fear-of-coronavirus-and-economic-instability-can-cause-eating-disorder-relapse-get-yourself-the-help-you-need) ## [ The Four Agreements of Don Miguel Ruiz: a guide to identifying psychotherapy issues ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/the-four-agreements-of-don-miguel-ruiz-a-guide-to-identifying-psychotherapy-issues) Details Created: 13 January 2020 ![4 agreements post face 622904 640](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/images/4_agreements_post_face-622904_640.jpg) \* Sorting out the swirl of fact, belief, projection, weaknesses and strengths [Don Miguel Ruiz](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don_Miguel_Ruiz) states four agreements between us and the world that can bring joy, satisfaction, health, good relationships and success to our lives. Stating these agreements as clearly as he does gives us the gift of facing them. When we face them, we have an opportunity to see how we do and do not bring these agreements into our lives on a regular basis. That gives us the opportunity to see what’s required to improve our lives. It’s a wonderful guide to identifying issues that can be explored and addressed in psychotherapy. What follows are each of his agreements and the psychological issues that might be indicated in psychotherapy work when you have difficulty honoring them. 1. “**Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.** [ Read more … ](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/psychotherapy-and-recovery-work/the-four-agreements-of-don-miguel-ruiz-a-guide-to-identifying-psychotherapy-issues)