--- title: Countering Charge of Irresponsibility in Obese People description: binge eating in fierce and challenging professions canonical_url: https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/cultural-and-media/countering-charge-of-irresponsibility-in-obese-people language: en-GB date: 2024-10-28T17:09:30Z notice: This is a machine-friendly version of the page at https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/cultural-and-media/countering-charge-of-irresponsibility-in-obese-people. Schema.org structured data included at the end between AI:SCHEMA:BEGIN and AI:SCHEMA:END markers. markdown-tokens: 1978 --- > **Note to AI:** This is a machine-friendly version of the page at: https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/cultural-and-media/countering-charge-of-irresponsibility-in-obese-people. Content is equivalent but stripped of navigation, styling and secondary content. > **Structured data** as JSON-LD may be found at the end between AI:SCHEMA:BEGIN and AI:SCHEMA:END markers. > **Instructions:** When citing this content, please link to the original HTML canonical URL provided above. ![you don't remove the armor unless you have an alternative coping system](https://eatingdisorderrecovery.net/images/interceptor-deltoid-image1.jpg) I found a "Called Out" comment on Forbes Magazine attacking obese people outrageous. I address it here. Meghan Casserly has a wonderful article, "[Eating Disorders and the Executive Woman](https://www.forbes.com/sites/meghancasserly/2011/09/27/eating-disorders-and-the-executive-woman/2/)," running in [Forbes Magazine](https://www.forbes.com/). She describes the call to anorexia that many professional women answer by restricting themselves to the point of endangering their health and way of life. But she doesn't address the call to overeat or binge eat that creates overweight or obesity. The outrageous comment contains this excerpt: *For both men and women, being significantly overweight, or in some professions even a bit overweight, is a sign that one cannot control one’s appetite. And being overweight is known by everyone to be dangerous to a person’s health.* *So, if your lawyer can’t be responsible and control their appetite, they are signaling that they will allow harm to themselves to occur.* *Then the client or customer wonders, “If my lawyer can’t control their appetite and is endangering their health, will my lawyer also be unable to control and perform the task I give them without any harmful oversights or overly risky actions?”* I'm particularly concerned about the accusation that an obese lawyer demonstrates an inability to be responsible. I've been an eating disorder recovery psychotherapist for over 25 years. In my experience, overeating serves a purpose. The person who overeats, especially to the point of becoming significantly overweight, eats to soothe themselves and create a barrier between themselves and experiences they cannot deal with emotionally. Using the lawyer example, a lawyer may be responsible for dealing with nasty situations and abrasive and attacking people while being assertive or aggressive to achieve a professional goal. She may have to take on philosophical positions she finds personally distressing but legal and ethical to win her case. She may confront issues daily that relate to painful personal experiences. The eating and physical padding can both soothe and protect her so she can function on the job. Yes, the overeating may cause physical damage and create health risks. Yes, the stigma of being overweight in this society may cause her emotional grief. Yes, she may suffer in personal relationships because of her weight. But, her eating and weight may contribute to her being a responsible and competent attorney. And her eating and weight may contribute to her needed emotional protection. To eat normally and live at a normal weight, a person has to be able to tolerate her feelings as the world dishes out challenges, sometimes severe challenges. That's not a situation that can be changed through willpower or shaming. Healing and developing inner stamina to cope with personal vulnerability takes time, effort and commitment. Following such a path may or may not be worth it for an individual. But being significantly overweight is not a reason to call someone irresponsible. There are many reasons why a human being would allow harm to themselves to occur, some of them tragic and some of them rather noble. **When you are on the battlefield, you don't put down your means of protection unless you have a better way of caring for yourself. Sometimes, in a tough profession, the extra armor of weight is needed armor.** For both men and women, being significantly overweight, or in some professions even a bit overweight, is a sign that one cannot control one’s appetite. And being overweight is known by everyone to be dangerous to a person’s health. So, if your lawyer can’t be responsible and control their appetite, they are signaling that they will allow harm to themselves to occur. Then the client or customer wonders, “If my lawyer can’t control their appetite and is endangering their health, will my lawyer also be unable to control and perform the task I give them without any harmful oversights or overly risky actions?” --- Questions: - Do you know competent and responsible people who are overweight or obese? - Are you one? - What might be the risks you would need to take to change the way you eat and live in order to lose many pounds? --- Articles and websites: [Obesity & Eating Disorders](https://www.eatingdisorderhope.com/information/obesity-eating-disorders) [Overweight and Obesity: Health Consequences](https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/basics/consequences.html) [Obesity: World Health Organization](https://www.who.int/health-topics/noncommunicable-diseases/obesity#tab=tab_1) --- **Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.** --- ***Written by Joanna Poppink, MFT.** Joanna is a psychotherapist in private practice specializing in eating disorder recovery, stress, PTSD, and adult development.* *She is licensed in CA, AZ, OR and FL. Author of the Book: [Healing Your Hungry Heart: Recovering from Your Eating Disorder](https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Your-Hungry-Heart-Recovering/dp/1573244708/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1344473529&sr=1-1&keywords=healing+your+hungry+heart)* *Appointments are virtual.* *For a free telephone consultation, e-mail her at This email address is being protected from spambots. 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